How To Deal With "TOXIC PEOPLE" | Keeping your mental health healthy | Katiexobeauty + more

Hey everyone! Today's blog is a little less happy and upbeat and more of a touchy, hard topic. Today I'm going to be talking about my experiences with toxic people. I'm going to be giving you some insight on how to deal with them and giving some advice. I know these kinds of situations are not easy at all. I wanted to share my story, but also give some advice because if I can even help one person it's totally worth it.

Let's get into it!

I first off just want to share my story. I feel like I have dealt with toxic people from time to time in my life. I never wanted to talk about this subject out of pity or anything because that's just not me. I just wanted to get all of this off my chest. I feel like in high school I dealt with toxic people. I dealt with friendships ending and there being no goodbye. There were times when I was good friends with someone and then we just never hangout again. It was weird for me because I always felt like there was something still left there, but maybe it wasn't the same for them. There have also been times where I've had toxic roommates and friends. The funny thing is that no of this ever started out a certain way. In the beginning I thought that this person was a good person, but then in the end they started showing a different side that convinced me of something completely different. I'm not bashing these people at all. I'm just gonna say that deep down they are good people, but they just show a bad side. I'm not going to tell who these people were. Talking about the specific people isn't the point of this blog. The point is to talk about how you can keep your mentality healthy in situations where you might encounter a toxic person.

My tips 

1. Surround yourself with a good support system 

The most important thing in my opinion is surrounding yourself with a good support system. Talk to people who get what your going though, or just talk to people. The most important thing is to keep a good headspace and make sure that you aren't negatively affecting your mental health. During my situation in college with a toxic friend I found it super hard to keep a good mentality when this person was constantly negative. It was hard to be happy when I was around them. I feel like what really helped me was having a good group of friends to talk to. I would text one of my best friends about what was going on. She always knew what to say and she always gave great advice. It really helped having that encouragement. 

2. Talk to the toxic person 

I think something else that is very important is having an honest open conversation with the person. It might be hard to do knowing that they are negative, but try. I found in my situation with a friend it was hard to talk to them. I found if I was honest with them sometimes they would get offended even if I said things in a nice way. Also if I spoke my mind they would sometimes not be able to handle it, but it was ok for them to talk the same way to me. It was always so frustrating. My main advice there is if you can talk to them honestly. Keep it simple, be nice. 

3. End things, walk away 

I think this can be hard, but also not. It really depends on the situation. Sometimes though in these types of situations it is best to just walk away. IT's best to walk away from the friendship, relationship , or whatever it is. If it's affecting your mental health then it just isn't worth it. Sometimes walking away is just what has to be done. In my situation once I finished off that year of school I found that I needed some space from that friendship. I didn't know if that friendship would be a thing or not, and looking back I still don't know. I would reach out in a text, but then life got busy so I didn't. I always told myself in that situation after I probably would walk away from the situation, but there's always that question in the back of my mind that is like was that right? was that friendship good? was everything worth it? I really don't know, but will I ever know I don't know that either. it's a hard line to walk. 

I feel like this is one of those situations where there isn't a whole lot to say. I feel like my situations were done when I didn't see the person. Roommates that caused me anxiety and toxic feelings once that time was over I walked away, but other situations still stick with me. Certain friendships have me still looking in the past. I still think about if it is over or not. My last piece of advice is to just listen to yourself. Do what is best for you because that is all that matters. I remember so many times people telling me but you need friends don't cut them out of your life. You can need something, but if life gives you all this toxicity you don't need that. It is better to be alone for a bit then to hold onto a toxic person. And on top of that sometimes friends are not enough when it comes to leaning on a good support system. Sometimes seeking advice or help from a trained professional is best. Talking to a counselor can help. I would recommend it to anyone, but especially to someone that is struggling. There is no shame in accepting help. 

To anyone out there needing help right now. Feel free to tweet at me. I'm always there for you! 

And I couldn't end off this post like that. I would like to send you some encouragement as you need it so here are a few quotes to help you in whatever way you may need it. 

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Thanks for reading & I hope to spread so much more positive vibes to you!

XOXO -Katie